Blog

Are we defined or shaped by our experience? | Posted on Aug 2019

Why is it that some people choose to be defined by their negative experience and some choose to rise above it and learn from it?  Why do I say ‘choose’? In my life, I have been exposed to difficult and challenging experiences. I’m sure you have too.  They have shaped me.  Have I allowed them […]

Read More »

How self-confidence is built | Posted on Jul 2019

How can I be more self-confident?  This is a question I am often asked. The person asking is often of the mind that self-confidence is something which is gained in a moment – it being a ‘commodity’ as such.  Something which can be picked up and applied. Self-confidence is gained over time by learning new […]

Read More »

Lean In – 10 Seconds of Courage | Posted on Jul 2019

This is the sixth and maybe the key technique in the series Six Tools to Build Self-Confidence. Here is a technique to find courage. We think of courageous people having courage all the time.  Courage is also for nervous, anxious and fearful people.  Courage is something which we call on when we are faced with […]

Read More »

Practice | Posted on Jul 2019

Over the last four blogs in this series, Six Tools to Build Self-Confidence, I have offered you some simple techniques to use to develop your self-confidence and reduce anxiety. Self-confidence is like a muscle.  It has to be used to be developed.  If not, it will atrophy and shrink.  Using a technique once is not […]

Read More »

Be In The Present | Posted on Jul 2019

Welcome to the next blog in the series – Six Tools to Build Your Self-Confidence.  In the last blog, I gave you a very simple physical technique to ground you when in a state of anxiety or lacking self-confidence.  It included the simplest technique of all – taking a breath. In addition to taking a […]

Read More »

Look Around You | Posted on Jul 2019

When we lack confidence or are in fear, we can become ‘ungrounded’ and ‘in our head’ dealing with the negative emotions and trying to work out a situation mentally.  One of the ways we can ‘ground ourselves’ or get back into our body is to breathe as discussed in my last blog and this week’s […]

Read More »

Lots of things happen when we don’t breathe … | Posted on Jun 2019

…and none of them are good. Welcome to the second blog in the series Six Tools to Build Self Confidence. Most people will be aware of holding their breath when stressed or fearful.  I notice it in the Consulting Room when I make an intervention.  The client will hold their breath when they are searching […]

Read More »

Fear or Excitement? | Posted on Jun 2019

Welcome to the first blog in the series Six Tools to Build Self Confidence. Believe it or not, anxiety is a normal aspect of everyday life.  It is the mental state that gets you to an appointment on time and enables you to remember all the things you have to do.  It’s a state which […]

Read More »

Six Tools to Build Self-Confidence | Posted on Jun 2019

Personal obstacles can often impact on our ability to do a good job in the workplace, to be the parent we want to be, to be social with our friends and be confident in the world.  To bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be can seem an impossible task. […]

Read More »

Fly High With Confidence | Posted on May 2019

I was speaking to another therapist/coach who had publicly shared her challenging life experience and she said that she thought to share her story enabled people to feel that they could tell her anything and she wouldn’t be embarrassed or judgemental. Knowing that someone has been through something similar to us can help us have […]

Read More »