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Conflict – how to manage it | Posted Oct 2019

No matter how we try to understand one another, make compromises or calmly put our point across, sometimes conflict will arise.  When we communicate clearly and in a ‘level’ way, we can often come to an agreement with the other.  We can find a connection and establish how we can fit together. However, this assumes that […]

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Conflict – How to avoid it | Posted Oct 2019

Most of us dislike conflict – although you can probably think of someone who seems to thrive on it or even attract it.  Generally, though, I think we try to get along with others in the world.  It makes the day go easier if we are at ease with those around us and makes for […]

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Saying ‘Yes’. Feeling ‘No’. | Posted Sep 2019

How often do you say ‘Yes’ when you really want to say ‘No’?  How do you know that you really want to say ‘No’. In my last blog, I wrote about being authentic and choosing to do something which we don’t really want to do but we make a choice to do it because of […]

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Authenticity | Posted Aug 2019

When I write I realise that the subject is so multi-faceted that I have to concentrate on one aspect and keep to the subject. In my last blog I wrote about taking responsibility for our behaviour rather than taking responsibility for the feelings experienced by another as a response to our behaviour.  Being shaped by […]

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Are we defined or shaped by our experience? | Posted Aug 2019

Why is it that some people choose to be defined by their negative experience and some choose to rise above it and learn from it?  Why do I say ‘choose’? In my life, I have been exposed to difficult and challenging experiences. I’m sure you have too.  They have shaped me.  Have I allowed them […]

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How self-confidence is built | Posted Jul 2019

How can I be more self-confident?  This is a question I am often asked. The person asking is often of the mind that self-confidence is something which is gained in a moment – it being a ‘commodity’ as such.  Something which can be picked up and applied. Self-confidence is gained over time by learning new […]

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Lean In – 10 Seconds of Courage | Posted Jul 2019

This is the sixth, last and maybe the key technique in the series Six Tools to Build Self-Confidence. Here is a technique to find courage. We think of courageous people having courage all the time.  Courage is also for nervous, anxious and fearful people.  Courage is something which we call on when we are faced […]

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Practice | Posted Jul 2019

Welcome to the fifth blog in the series Six Tools to Build Self Confidence. Over the last four blogs in this series, I have offered you some simple techniques to use to develop your self-confidence and reduce anxiety. Self-confidence is like a muscle.  It has to be used to be developed.  If not, it will […]

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Be In The Present | Posted Jul 2019

Welcome to the fourth blog in the series – Six Tools to Build Your Self-Confidence.  In the last blog, I gave you a very simple physical technique to ground you when in a state of anxiety or lacking self-confidence.  It included the simplest technique of all – taking a breath. In addition to taking a […]

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Look Around You | Posted Jul 2019

Welcome to the third blog in the series Six Tools to Build Self Confidence. When we lack confidence or are in fear, we can become ‘ungrounded’ and ‘in our head’ dealing with the negative emotions and trying to work out a situation mentally.  One of the ways we can ‘ground ourselves’ or get back into […]

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